The couple were united in Holy Matrimony on February 15 2013 – and have
since then been able to stand the test of time because it was given six
months to crash...
Kayode Salako and his lovely wife, actress, Foluke Daramola are waxing stronger by the day.
The activist cum businessman gave some moments they shared in their three-and-a-half-year old union.
Was he skeptical when he wanted to marry a divorcee since he was also divorced at that time?
He said:
“I did not fancy Nigerian actresses. When I met Foluke, she never proved
to me that she was the sterotypical actress. She is a very good cook,
washes my underwear, she is homely and not outgoing. In fact, I now prod
her to go out. She prefers to be at home with her husband and the
children. She is very reasonable, mentally upright, focus and ambitious.
She is godly and she can recite 25 psalms in the Bible off hand. She is
not money conscious, fun to be with and till date, we still live as
friends. We have many things in common. We are activists, we both
believe in fighting for our rights.”
Any reaction from his family?
“I wasn’t expecting to marry a perfect woman. I have decided to be her
father, her boss, her friend and a teacher. When I was getting married, I
told everyone in my family to go all out and make inquiries if she is
my wife. I consulted about 65 pastors before I made up my mind on her.”
Who apologises when there is a misunderstanding?
Foluke, the mother of two replied, “I was in a marriage before, so
making amends when there is a wrong is no problem. Most of the time, I
say, ‘I’m sorry,’ it does not cost anything to apologise. If not given,
it can degenerate to anything. Fortunately, he does not suffer from
inferiority complex. The kind of upbringing I have is contentment and
love. I want to have my husband, children and run my home. When we were
about getting married, my father-in-law was skeptical and some of his
siblings. I made everybody realise that acting is a profession, which I
happen to find myself.”
Kayode said, “Foluke is stubbornly reasonable but quick to accept her
fault. She kneels down and apologises and sometimes, sheds tears to show
she is indeed sorry. I love her very much, she is like my baby and I
don’t fail to tell her when she is wrong. Our quarrel doesn’t last an
hour. We are not in this marriage by accident but by the will of God.”
So, what makes a marriage successful?
Kayode proffered, “Maintain that channel of communication. Discuss it
all because when you don’t tell her she might not know. Secondly,
understand each other. Know your wife and who she is. You must also be
friends. Also a man should learn to overlook especially if you are
married to a celebrity. I read a book where a writer said nothing is a
problem, only thinking makes it so. If you attach meanings to every
issue, marriage heads for the rocks. Not all the time should you
overlook but when you want to make a complaint let it be in the confines
of your bedroom. Let the man be mentally mature too and be confident in
himself. Also, learn to share. A man should not allow his wife do all
the chores and he wants to share her money with her, it fails. She is
not your slave, she is a human being that deserves happiness.”
Foluke said, “The woman is motivated by what she hears and the man, what
he sees. Women make the mistake of not spicing up their marriage. What
are those things that attracted him to you? Then, don’t stop. He loves
my legs and I wear short skirts at home for him. You have to put your
man on his toes. Read books and know what excite your marriage. Also,
men don’t tell their wives ‘I love you.’ Pay her compliments. I wash his
undies, cook special diet. In fact celebs go the extra mile to make
marriage work. We try to pamper, make men feel special and want homes.
We need confident men. Take care of your man. Say, ‘I love you’. My
husband tells me every morning, ‘I love you.’
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